Not who does the dishes. Who thinks about them. We make it visible in 2 minutes.
Each of you answers on their own side, then you compare your two perceptions.
Free, no signup. No answers stored on a server.
First names make the result more meaningful. They stay inside the link you send each other, nothing is saved anywhere else.
4 core areas. Each option adds one round to the test, for both of you.
Discover Eqwity Mind too, the app that measures the mental load for real.
The Eqwity Mind app measures for 30 days who thinks and who does, for real, throughout daily life. And settles it between you, without putting anyone on trial.
The mental load is the invisible work of running a household: thinking, anticipating, planning and coordinating, on top of doing. This test separates two dimensions that are often confused: the doing (vacuuming, cooking) and the thinking (knowing it needs doing, when, and remembering it). You can share the doing while one person carries all the anticipating: that's the imbalance this test makes visible.
Each person answers on their own side across several areas (meals and groceries, cleaning and laundry, emotional load, admin, children, finances), then the test compares the two perceptions and reveals the real gap. To go further: our full guide to mental load and our 7 steps to lighten it.
Yes, completely free, no signup, and no answer is stored on a server.
The test makes the most sense as a pair: each person answers on their own side, then you compare perceptions. But you can already take it alone to gauge your own load.
A to-do list measures the "doing". This test also measures the "thinking": the anticipating and planning, the most exhausting and most invisible part of the mental load.